The First Anniversary
4-10-15-Charlotte
We met with the lead doctor of the transplant team.
He said, “Come back in July and we’ll get her on the waiting list for a liver.”
One year ago today, my wife had exactly seventeen days to live.
No one expected such a timeline.
We received the news in February she needed a liver transplant.
My attention was focused on how our lives would change and what it might be like after the surgery. I had made plans to retire so I could take care of her.
It never occurred to me she wouldn’t make it to the surgery.
Monday, 4-20-15
Bob’s doctor admitted her to the hospital for fluids and tube feeding. Gastric problems had made it impossible for her to gain much needed weight to prepare for the transplant. A feeding tube would bypass the stomach and avoid problems.After four days, it appeared as though the plan was working. She had gained a few pounds and lab values looked good.
Saturday, 4-25-15
X-rays to check on the placement of the feeding tube revealed the presence of double pneumonia.
Bob and I have a mutual friend we both admire and love. Miriam Goldberg has a hobby of watching the news for celebrity deaths. Anytime a celebrity dies, she knows the story. Every time we would ask her something like, “What happened to Merle Haggard? How did he die?” Miriam would reply, “His heart stopped beating.”
Monday, 4-27-15 at 4:37 P.M. Bob’s heart stopped beating.
Seventeen days from today, family members will be in town to join me in observing the first anniversary of Bob’s death.
It will be a special day for us all. Not because she died, but because she lived, our lives will never be the same again.What a blessing.
I’m at peace.